Changing behavior?

Just something I thought applicable and useful, on the topic "How can we influence/change behaviour?" Its just that this diagrammatic model looked simple and understandable enogh, which i will attempt to recreate here using text @.@

Information ----> Thinking -----> Behaviour [simplified]

It follows then that behaviour is influenced by thinking, and our thinking can only be changed with additional information. Take an example of some 12 year old whose parents can't seem to get them to put their dirty clothes in the washing basket. Nagging won't help, obviously, so one day the parents decide to furnish the child with some new information. "We will only wash clothes that are in the laundry basket". Soon as the dirty clothes start piling up, and those favourite garments remain unwashed, the child will develop a new sense of thinking, and the clothes will end up in the washing basket.

Okay, so maybe that was a nonsense example, but it does strike me that good parenting does involve giving your child information, instead of just nagging, scolding, etc. So everytime you rebuke anyone, it is appropriate to give an explanation as to why and how this particular act is wrong, so instead of illiciting a negative, rebellious response, you would change the person's thinking, and accordingly, their behaviour.

Gee, why am I talking about parenting.. :/ Anyway maybe someone can get something out of this :P
~Jason

Got this off www.crosswalk.com...

The Brand New You
by Max Lucado

Have you ever noticed the way a groom looks at his bride during the wedding? I have. Perhaps it's my vantage point. As the minister of the wedding, I'm positioned next to the groom.

By the time we reach the altar, I've been with him for some time backstage as he tugged his collar and mopped his brow. But all that changes when she appears. And the look on his face is my favorite scene in the wedding.

Most miss it. Most miss it because they are looking at her. But when other eyes are on the bride, I sneak a peek at the groom. If the light is just so and the angle just right, I can see a tiny reflection in his eyes. Her reflection. And the sight of her reminds him why he is here.

And such are precisely the feelings of Jesus. Look long enough into the eyes of our Savior and, there, too, you will see a bride. Dressed in fine linen. Clothed in pure grace. From the wreath in her hair to the clouds at her feet, she is royal; she is the princess. She is the bride. His bride. Walking toward him, she is not yet with him. But he sees her, he awaits her, he longs for her.

"Who could bear to live without her?" you hear him whisper.

And who is that bride? Who is this beauty who occupies the heart of Jesus?

You are. You have captured the heart of God. "As a man rejoices over his new wife, so your God will rejoice over you" (Isa. 62:5).

The challenge is to remember that. To meditate on it. To focus on it. To allow his love to change the way you look at you.

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Aside from that, I know everyone's busy with their exams, just wanna encourage everyone to press on, it will be over in 3 wk's time... All things are possible with Him!!

Sleep well, eat well, keep warm... :)

Blessings...
evee

Plagiarism...

Someone in the CG told me I should double post what I have on my blog. So here it is. Hope some of this will form some foundational truths in your life.

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1) God is a person. He can be understood. It's religion that makes God untouchable.

2) God does not HAVE love, nor does He USE love. He IS love.

3) When God doesn't want us to do a certain thing, it's not motivated by law, it's motivated by love - He doesn't want us to be hurt.

4) If God is eternal, without beginning or end - why do you expect to know Him totally?

5) Do you know everyone lives forever? Everyone has eternal life? The difference is in where they'll spend it.

6) God is unchanging. His methods are unpredictable, but His character is the same. He healed ppl differently - mud on eyes, rise up and walk.. but the healing characteristic of His is the same.

7) God is what He does, and does what He is.

8) The 10 commandments, you break one = you break all.

9) Every time we bag ourselves and say we're no good, we're saying that there is a stripe missing on Jesus' whipped back. We're saying His work is not complete. We're saying our names are missing from His stripes. The movie The Passion Of The Christ had the scene of Jesus being whipped going for around 10 minutes. We're saying God left your name out of the billions of sinners' names etched on Jesus' back. We're saying Jesus was whipped for nothing. (I watched the movie again, and saw how Jesus though He couldn't take it anymore, stood up again for them to cane Him when He saw His ppl. It was for us.)

10) We might have no courage to 'do' a Christian life of law, but we have the grace to live it.

11) God loves us as much as the Father loved Jesus.

12) I don't deserve it (grace), but I'm gonna take it.

13) Works = Paying for something that has been paid for. God can't judge us twice, He has already judged Jesus! We don't pay the same speeding tickets twice, do we?

14) God was pleased with Jesus even before Jesus completed His work of dying for us, Matt 3:16 / Mark 1:11 / Luke 3:22 - "This is my Son, whom I love; with Him I am well pleased."

15) Good character produces good works, not the other way around.

16) How can people know we're Christians? How do we witness for Christ? Well, it can be seen through our WORDS and LIFESTYLE.

17) The gospel is not a gospel of judgement, it's more the gospel of love and grace. John 3:16-18 "For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish, but have eternal life. For God did not send the Son into the world to judge the world, but that the world should be saved through Him."

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WillZ

jing blogged!

hello everyone!! wow my first post! hehe..
hows everyone been so far..i noe everyone must be really busy..er maybe not jason..and willie..hehe
anyways, an update on my life..
work! loads of it...i have only two exams u see and they are both less than 40 percent papers..which is not good cos may will be quite an evil month..
BUT! God is really really good, i know i will have time to finish the assignments..aiyah God put me in this course He will bring me thru it man...no fear
and yup i hope i'm playing my part and working real hard!
Quite good la..still haf time to blog and email the worsip team leaders..
hmm wad haf i been doing..not much exciting..booked my plane ticket back to spore, oo i went to the gym and met debs there! debs u are really disciplined..respect!! hehe..been cookin for brother, going to juns place to do work..
oh yes..i'll be doing worship next friday!! v excited and nervous too.. pray that God will annoint me and empower me and my cool team and that above all the technicalities which pple often get so caught up in we will truly have hearts of worship.. yup lots to pray for.. worship ministry's so far so good..very thankful for su ee, got my contact list done up, cutting hair and baking quite ok...we got a little over 200 now!!! how cool man...
my brothers doing ok too, studying lots and playing too and he washes up every time i cook! hehe..and its 12am i better go home now!
see u all friday and till then lets seek God and dwell in His presence everyday!! lalala
ok bye bye

:: a testimony... i think ::

Booked a car with Budget so that i could show my parents ard the nice wineries... It was booked through the internet 2 wks prior to their arrival... but when i went to pick up the car, they said that my internet booking was not reflected... I had not bothered to print out the reservation confirmation email as they have always had my reservation...

So in the end, they "trusted" that i had booked it and rented the car to me at the lowest car rate whilst giving me the car category which i orginally booked... I was quite happy with that, but being the marketin student that i am, i was quite displeased with their service in terms of system reliability...

I was quite puzzled abt my booking being "lost" in their system... so i checked my email when i got home and realised that i had indicate the pick up location as their South Bank outlet and not the Elizabeth St one which i went to!! *blush*

But... PTL!!

Coz the rental cost me $40 cheaper!!! hehe